Take some time this week to discuss these questions with your spouse.

1. What are some expectations that you had before you were married or shortly after you were married that did not get fulfilled?
2. Think of one expectation that did not become a reality and you were disappointed about and one expectation that turned out better or was a pleasant surprise. (If you’re not married yet, this is a good time to talk about some of the expectations both of you have for married life.)
3. How would you finish this sentence? “From all the expectations of marriage that I had, this is one that is very important to me and I would love to talk about ways that we can make it part of our marriage: _______________________________.”
4. “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” Charles Swindoll

“To love somebody is not just a strong feeling—it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were just a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever.” Eric Fromm, The Art of Loving

• Talk about the sacredness of marriage and the importance of your attitude in making your marriage great. 
• What are some circumstances and situations in your life/marriage that are difficult to have a positive attitude about?
• What is one thing you can do this week to have a better attitude?

4. Philippians 2:4 “Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:4

• What role does your commitment to your vows play in your everyday life?