Take some time this week to discuss these questions with your spouse.
- What are some expectations that you had before you were married or shortly after you were married that did not get fulfilled?
- Think of one expectation that did not become a reality and you were disappointed about and one expectation that turned out better or was a pleasant surprise. (If you’re not married yet, this is a good time to talk about some of the expectations both of you have for married life.)
- How would you finish this sentence? “From all the expectations of marriage that I had, this is one that is very important to me and I would love to talk about ways that we can make it part of our marriage: _______________________________.”
- “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” Charles Swindoll
“To love somebody is not just a strong feeling—it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were just a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever.” Eric Fromm, The Art of Loving
Dr. James Dobson conveys a similar message in his book Romantic Love: “You see, [a couple’s] love is not defined by the highs and lows, but is dependent on a commitment of their will. Stability comes from this irrepressible determination to make a success of marriage and to keep the flame aglow regardless of the circumstances.”
- Talk about the sacredness of marriage and the importance of your attitude in making your marriage great.
- What are some circumstances and situations in your life/marriage that are difficult to have a positive attitude about?
- What is one thing you can do this week to have a better attitude?
4. Philippians 2:4 “Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:4
- What role does your commitment to your vows play in your everyday life?
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